The Lost Plum…

In any relationship the dynamic of sleeping next to someone is ever changing. It’s not just how we as individuals prefer to sleep but it is how we interact with the other person. I’ve long stated “I am a big spoon” I wont deny I love that position, but some time the dynamic changes and I can shout from the roof tops. “I love being my man’s little spoon” see what I did there? I said “my mans.” Because the sleeping dynamic melds with that of another persons as time progresses. I’ve never liked being spooned before, but now I do. Must be love!

But spooning is just one in the plethora of sleepy snuggle positions out there.

Relationship sleeping has an element of security to it. You feel secure, and safe with someone next to you. And like some corny stupid Faith Hill song it’s because you can feel the other person “breath”.

And although we may move from spooning to only a small cuddle we still feel that person there, and that is the comfort…right?

And as time passes an relationships evolve we grow comfortable in both turning away and not touching, because we don’t need to feel the other person to know that they are right beside you.

But that’s where one of my new favorite positions comes into play. As we both drift off to sleep facing away from each other, our bodies get comfy, and we start to curl into little sleeping balls.  And even though we didn’t need to fall asleep touching each other, our bodies find each other……. and we are sleeping “cheek to cheek.”

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It’s the first tuesday of the month and this months Telling Tuesday revolves around people being in trouble……

Telling Tuesday: in trouble….

1.  ”YES! Even that is mad at you right now! You can’t rub either of us and make it better! ” (woman to guy on N Train)

2. “I’m in so much trouble dude. I think the other girl might be the sister of saturdays girl. They really look and seem the same….and pretty sure I think they have the same last name!”   (two ‘bros’ at lunch in Soho)

3. “What jailed they take you too?……they let you make a three way call…what crazed copper let you make a three way call?”  (two men on street at 46th and 11th)

4. “I love you very much and you’re the only girl for me but right now you are in trouble and my mom always said if you’re in trouble you don’t get dinner, so no!”  (Guy to his Gal on E train)

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It might seem like I haven’t wrote in a long time. But thing is I’ve been writing almost non-stop every day for the last month or so. Some of it is blog posts (you’ll get them in time) some of it is for a few other projects, and some is for actual pleasure * gasp *.

But thing is I didn’t feel right posting here the last little while. It just didn’t seem right.  I started to taper off a while ago, then would proclaim “I’m back” but truthfully I was never feeling it, and so I’d drift away into the night again. It wouldn’t go unnoticed, I’d get your comments, your emails, your tweets, asking where your Sunday PULL was or that post I promised on ‘this or that’ but after awhile those stop too. And then today (or should I say yesterday) something shocking happened I had 193 unique hits on my blog… the first time in over 2 years I feel anywhere near under 200 or even 300.  And something in that hit me. I don’t know what it was just something hit me. Not in an “ I better get cracking” or “oh no” or even “what the hell where is my love” kind of way, just in a “isn’t that interesting” kind of way.  It is kind of interesting how when you stop talking (or should I say typing) after a while people just stop listening. Almost like you never were there, like it never meant anything to them, or even to you……and “isn’t that interesting” at getting lost on the side of the road of this information super highway.

Now lostplum has been here since 2006…. and became a steadier stream of consciousness in February of 2008. That’s 3 years…. 3!

3 great years…..I’ve meet some great people via this blog, and had some great adventures, and yes some bad ones as well.

I’m proud to say I have never just banged out a post for the purpose of blogging everyday. I don’t just sit down and say “I’m here world pay attention…I have nothing of value or usefulness, but here’s a fun video cause I’m lame today” I’d like to think I’ve always posted something that even if it didn’t make others think or made them laugh it did those things to me. I always provide content…i think….well maybe….

Hold your horses…. this isn’t a goodbye letter!

Lately I’ve been in a blog rut.

A RUT!

That’s all it has been. I just had no motivation to post. (Notice I didn’t say writing rut…cause I have been writing) A very “what’s the point of it all” moment in my head…..this moment has lasted a few months.

I don’t apologize: why should I?!

It just is what it is…. it has been what it has been.

But here is the thing. When looking at that under 200 mark I hit today it clicked in my head that it doesn’t really matter if 200 people read this, or 2000 or even 2. I read it and I say things that matter to me. I don’t do this for anyone else…I have lots of other projects I do for others. This is just my little world (it’s getting old just like me) where I talk about those ever important issues like relationships, dating, friends, boys, sex, guys, the odd few men, and even love.

I just LOST my place on the page for a little while…. bare with me I think I’ll be finding my way back soon.

FACT: I’m posting at 2am that has to say something!

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To all those people on foursquare who check into places a million times that they never go to, get a life.

You know who I’m talking about! Those people that are mayors of your personal apartment but you don’t know them…….

FYI having 30 mayorships doesn’t make you cool. Also you take the fun out of it for the rest of us. They need a badge called “Stupid Lame Face” AKA you check into stuff you have never been to so you’re a stupid lame face.

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As I stated last month the first Tuesday of every month will now be referred to as ‘Telling Tuesdays’. In which I just give you a few overheard snippets from my eavesdropping adventures in NYC. This months post is all about appearances.

Telling Tuesdays: Appearances

1.  “You looked much better in the blue dress you tried on but I’ll still poke you later.”  (Guy to girl on A Train)

2.   “My mom and dad were telling me I should get a job cause it looks bad cause I’m poor and stuff.”  (Boy to Girl at Brooklyn Botanic Garden)

3.    “You’d think he’d like those little thongs but no he did” (Girl at restaurant)

4.    “Can you stop talking for two seconds cause it makes you just look like a bitch”  (Guy to girl on V Train)

5.     “Did you see those girls at the bar?”  “The lesbians” “No the other girl touching each others boobs”  (Guys on street)

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