Something-Else Saturday: Dating & Social Media: Can You Make Them Work?
Guess what is back? That is right Something-Else Saturdays! YEAH! And I can’t think of a better way to jump back into this little feature on my blog then a great guest blog post by one of my favorite people from the great wide world of twitter!
Katie Little or has I first knew her @KT_Little offers us up some thoughts on two great subjects: Dating and Social Media. She asks some pretty great questions, and i look forward to reading what you all think about them. (and I also can’t wait to write my own responses as well) So here we go……My first ever (ever!) guest post and the return of ’something-else saturdays’
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Dating & Social Media: Can You Make Them Work?
I recently rejoined the dating scene – luckily enough I have met some really great guys.
One thing that I always notice every time we go out for a meal – we order then afterwards while talking to each other, we pull out our devices (I don’t have an internet based phone but I use my iPod Touch). While waiting we still talk to each other but spend time on our devices.I never really ask ‘oh are you on Facebook or Twitter’ because sometimes that is awkward for me.
Personally, I want to keep my social media identity a secret. I am a HUGE tweeter – and have my account public.
But when is the right time to tell him about your other identity? Or maybe not? Here are a few discussion questions I want to address.
Discussion Questions:
- Is there a right time to tell him you are active on social media?
- Are you like me – you feel want to create a protection around your social media community?
- What are ways/tips to tell your man without him freaking out you’re tweeting every second bout your date?
Katie is currently looking for employment in the social media industry. At the moment she currently is a nanny for a 1st grader and babysits for 6 families. She holds a graduate degree in leadership and management with a focus on social media and leadership from York St. John University in York, England. Katie’s strong background in customer relations, communications and leadership has contributed to her many successes.
In her spare time Katie caters to the whims of many canine companions through her business Your Puppy Nanny where she provides “loving care for when you’re not there…”
You pull out your digital devices on a date? Man, things sure have changed a lot since I was a puppy. I would NEVER do that even as I am now addicted to the Twitter (old dogs, new tricks is NOT true.. we learn them just fine, thank you!)
DogWalkBlog creates its own natural environment outside of my real self. In my real world, nobody would see me as the dog and vice-versa. It’s not a well-guarded secret as figuring out who I really am is not all that hard (hey, I’ll even tell you @gerardmclean) But I’ve discovered most people don’t even want to know the real person behind the dog. They love to live in the fantasy that is the character Rufus Dogg.
Ironically, Rufus Dogg allows me to be more myself than my human self allows. But I would never bring Rufus into a relationship that didn’t start in the social media space. In the real world, I always start out as the human me… and then bring only select people along for the Walk.
Rufus— “and then bring only select people along for the Walk.” it a great way to look at all things in life.
I know it sounds really awkward. Though we are in a digital connected space I think of my devices as comfort I guess. Like when he goes away for a bit I can go on my iPod touch 4 and like say hi to my tweet friends etc. nobody really date wise knows me thru social media – I mean I want to keep it a mystery.
It’s like I met this guy from twitter – hot! We got along great but he was always turned off when I was tweeting other guys and like saying comments like ‘don’t you look gorgeous, etc. I’m very flirty person but if I hide my identity then I can be my own self and not have to worry what I should not say.
If you are on a date, chances are the person you are on the date with has already looked you up o li e somehow! Also, don’t pullnyourbphone out on a date. It’s rude and shows you don’t care…. And vice versa.
Very true. The only thing that makes me cringe is I give him my email then he starts finding me on social networks etc.
I’ve thought of putting my tweets to private bit I dunno