worth alittle something…
I got thinking the other day. Thinking about friends and their ability to stand and support you, now not in life, or anything like that.
Here’s the thing I have been thinking about how I’ve been told on 3 occasions when I’ve meet a guy I’ve been seeing (involved with or dating) friends.
I’ve been told how great that guy is, how special he is, and how I better, in a sense, watch myself. I’ve been told that I need to understand how special and wonderful said guy is, and how I need to treat him well.
Now I get alittle thrown off because these are always the conversations I see people telling the guy who is dating the girl, at least that’s how it happens in the movies and on TV. It’s almost never people telling the girl to take care of the guy she is dating. Or is it?
Now most of the time when this happens I kind of want to say “Are you kidding me? You just meet me, but let me tell you something I am the real catch in this relationship.” Alas, I jus say, “ I know” and nod my head, or smile sweetly as I get told how great their guy friend is and how lucky I apparently am to be graced with his presence.
Here’s what gets me though. I don’t think I’ve ever had a friend tell any guy I’ve ever brought around that I am a catch, or they need to treat me right. In fact, I pretty much am positive no friend has ever let a guy know that I am worthy of being treated well.
Maybe my friends assume that by the time I get around to introducing guys to them that I’ve already vented the bad ones out. Maybe they trust my judgment and what I’m doing.
But then again knowing my past judgment in relationships or men you would think my friends would let boys know that they should treat me well.
So question is do my friends just trust me that much? I find that hard to believe. Maybe no one really cares in a sense. They just assume I’ll pull myself back up at the end of the day, like I always do so why waste their time telling a guy I’m dating to treat me right and realize I’m special….but I think I’m worth that, just alittle bit, maybe.
interesting thought. I’ve never really told any of my friends prospects that they ned to watch it I think if you are able and old enough you are the only one responsible for your choices, it shouldnt be up to your friends to have your back. But I can see how you might want them to be there. Although I’ sure your friends would kick some serious ass if and when needed.
I completely agree. Though, it could be worse. My best friend and his wife like to see if a girl that I am with is aware of my flaws. If he wasn’t like family…sigh!
I’m looking forward to the day when a women I’m dating says, “That’s all well and good and I appreciate your input. But please, STFU. If I want to know something about him, I’ll ask.”
Of course you’re worth it; and I’d like to think all of us would be greatly flattered if one of our friends told a guy we were seeing that we were a fab catch; or to watch out if he upsets us .. even if it is said in a fun sort of way .. its nice to know our friends have our back (if anything for that moment)
I’ve been lucky to be around a great group of friends – men & women – who at some point or another have met the men I’m dating; I’ve found that my guy mates tend to point out my good traits & my flaws, and at the same time hint at the guy to watch it. My female friends tend to point out of my stronger straights which are positive but can also be negative if I’m pushed the wrong way; they also remind the guy that he’s surrounded by ‘our’ crew so he better not get on our bad side LOL