spark of heat…
I like many New Yorkers spend time not only intrigued by, but also sometimes try to not imagine what cab drivers in this city experience.
I have had many a terrible cab experience, and yet have had some amazing ones as well. I spoke nearly an hour after arriving at my stop talking with a cab driver (off the meter of course) about Beckett and the state of NY theatre. I had a cab driver once pull out his violin from the front seat and play me one of the best concerts I may ever experience. And of course I’ve had many a conversation about love and relationships.
I like talking with the cab drivers. I always talk back and engage in the action if it starts, that is unless it gets creepy.
Last week I was taking a cab home from the bar. “BabyBoy” had flagged the cab for me and I got in alone. My cab driver was intrigued and fascinated by this.
He brought this up almost immediately upon my door closing.
“You aren’t taking that young man in cab with you?”
“Nah, he wants to stay at the bar”
“Ah. He doesn’t know what he is missing. Or he does know and will be sorry later!” (insert strong robust laugh)
He proceeded to tell me about the idea of “electricity” in a relationship. How you can’t survive on just power, you need the actual flame to keep a relationship fresh exciting and new.
He told me about how in all good things in life (especially a romantic partner) you need electricity and sparks every single time.
You can’t live without the power, you can’t move, grow, or flourish without power, and ultimately power at its finest is electricity.
Infact the word ‘sparks’ might be wrong. Sparks are a one time thing, they get a fire going, and once it’s going the real electrical power has started. Sparks are exciting! It’s what everyone tells you you need, it’s what people ask if you had on a first date or encounter. But is just sparks what we want or better yet what we NEED!?
It made me think about how I want a guy who starts sparks from the first moment, and my fire gets started, and rather then re-sparking every time I’m with him, or see him, it’s like he’s throwing more wood on my fire, and it’s a growing blaze of electrical heat.
Cause I’m always cold so I definitely need a guy who can keep my fire going!
Why settle for anything but….
sparks, flames, BONFIRES! bring it all on! BURN THE HOUSE DOWN =)
xox
JFB
does this really happen though in life?
flames growing is such the right idea! great post and sounds like you’ve had some interesting cab rides.
IT”S gettin HAWT up in here!
great article, dear plum! enjoyed and inspired for some fire! :-)
Thats true. The only problem with not settling for best is there is a chance that you wont know what you got until it’s gone (ahhhhh, I hate it when I write a sentence and a song lyric comes out, really didn’t mean for that to happen)
Off topic, I wish the taxi drivers in the UK were as fun/though provoking as NY’ers. I bet if you could be a fly on the wall in any taxi in the UK the only questions asked would be “How about the weather?” and “what time are you finished at?”
God, it would be so great to meet a guy I have ’sparks’ with right from the start – that I could have a lasting relationship with. In my experience, when it does happen, the connection doesn’t seem to last very long.