Scientific bribing…
I was watching the Tyra Show yesterday. They had some guy who wrote some book about scientific facts and findings in regards to relationships.
To be honest I couldn’t tell you what the book was called or who he was or everything they talked about in the hour or however long that show is on.
The fact is I like background noise on when I work, and I usually have the TV on rather then music, I think because I care less about the TV then I do about my music.
Anyways, during a part of the show they asked multiple-choice questions about dealing of relationships, and then he would give the scientific answer (the only true answer as he put it, you know cause science is factual ALL the time)
They had questions like, what to wear to bed, who should pay for a date/outing, and so on…
But one question made me question “science”, and not just science but people.
The question was: If you don’t feel like having sex with your partner one night and they really want to you should either A) grin and bear it B) pretend to fall asleep or C) bribe them with something (ie. they take you some place, buy you something, do the dishes)
Now we are all entitled to our opinions, and I am in no way going to say which one is the one I’d pick. Cause fact of the matter is I have issues with all these options!
Grin and Bear it?! Really. If you are in any relationship where you have to grin and bear sex then you are lacking in the communication department. And if your communication department is broken, I hate to say it but your relationship is broken.
Now pretending to fall asleep is just ridiculous. Straight up!
Now compromising is one thing, but last time I checked compromising wasn’t the same as bribing. If you are with someone who needs you to agree to take out the trash or do dishes or take them on vacation to have sex, I feel bad for you. Sex should not be compromised and brided for. You know who bribes for sex? Prostitutes!
What happened to being honest? What’s wrong with saying “I don’t feel like having sex”? Nothing wrong with not wanting sex all the time (I don’t get that, but I’ll buy it, and appreciate the honesty)
How is honesty not a scientifically proven right answer? This is what is wrong with our world. Honesty is not the best policy when it comes to sex, and that means it’s not the best policy period. Because frankly we all know sex drives the world.
Oh and in case you were wondering if you turned to science for the right answer it would be C) bribe your partner to do stuff for you, before you do “stuff” to them!
child, I may have to put science to the test pretty soon! dig the post, it was all scientific and all, girl, you are blogging like a PRO!
First issue: it was the TYRA SHOW. ‘Nuf said.
Secondly: since when are scientists relationship experts? w, I like me some nerdy boys, but the sciencey set tend to not be savvy with the dating skills. That’s not my opinion. It’s science. And therefore fact.
Thirdly: hell yes honesty is the best option! I am so effing sick of this dogma we peddle to women about how to dress, how to behave, what to say, etc. All so we can bag and keep a man. (Excuse me while I throw up a little) I don’t want to “bag” a man and then ten years later he realizes he married a stranger thankyouverymuch. If he can’t handle the real me, flaws and all, I know someone who can: ME.
lol well at the very least…good to know that science and I are on the same track. I’ve never done it but C was my answer and I’m thinking…diamond earrings? (joking…originally I was thinking strawberry cheesequake blizzard but felt that that would cheapen my appeal)
I would have just asked for a massage. Something to help me in the mood :)
Kewl you should come up with that. Execellnt!