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I’ve been thinking about High School alot lately. Not cause I miss it (well sometimes I do lets be honest) and not cause I want to tell you about some High School crush. (Oh my high school crush is so cute, I want to facebook stalk him all day) I been thinking more of the “idea” and more so the term “High School”.
It’s been coming up in discussions I’ve been having alot. And I was talking to one of my friends about it the other day and I have a theory.
But I guess we need alittle back-story, alittle “meat” persay.
This really good friend ended a relationship a while ago. Since then my friend has had hardships when it comes to behavior on the other persons end, especially when it comes to third parties. The ex doesn’t tell them about specific things but basically makes it hard for them to be friends with each of them. Ex basically says that “friend” is dead to them, but if you want to be friends with such a person that ok. Yes the picking sides argument. “What are we in High School!?”
Now to be fair I had a situation like this once. An ex and I shared an entire close group of friends and we broke up, and something along the lines of the following took place:
Plum: It’s not about picking sides.
Him: Well they all like me better!
Plum: Whatever, they were my friends first.
(And so on)
Again I say “What are we in High School?” But at that time yeah pretty much so. I technically was only a year or two out of High School. (But that does not make the above conversation expectable…or does it?)
So lets bring it back to today, and my friend, and my theory.
See here is the thing. My friend is older then I am. My friend has past 35 further then I am close to 35. And the thing is most people I meet that I want to shake and scream “what are you in high school!?” Are older then I am. By at least 10 years minimum.
So my theory, ready? These people are living the drama of High School and they love it! They love being apart of the ‘High School’ drama because it is actually for the first time present in their lives. And that excites them!
For the first time they have people to be petty with, have people to talk about behind their backs, get to fight over what to wear, who to date, and who said what about whom. It’s the first time for all these people to in a sense be (dare I say it) COOL!
See the rest of us who look at these 35-40-45+ year olds and want to look them dead in the eye and ask why on earth they want to be in High School should actual just turn around and not judge and let this phase pass.
It’s actually kind of sad. Cause while the rest of us are over those petty stupid drama games we have the right to be. We lived it when we were in High School.
But there were those that didn’t.
So let’s let them have there High School drama temper tantrums and bitch fits, and 16 yearold breakups. Let them get it all out and maybe then they can grow up like the rest of us and realize their behavior is all alittle too “high school”
Because let’s be honest. We all couldn’t have been the Prom Queen who ran student council, did 6 other extra curricular, and dated the hot older Varsity captain, now can we! Some of us were cool in high school and now we’re over it. And then some of us I guess are just getting “cool” now and maybe just maybe they’ll get over it.
It just sucks that we can’t all be grownup in the world of relationships and date like we’re all 16 years old again.
I so agree you are totally on point! The adults that behave like they are in highschool were no doubt the losers in highschool and are all excited to be the hot shit now. Just sucks if you have to hear about their relationship woes all the time!
I was uncool in high school and you’re right I might act more like a teenager now because of it. But what about there theory that the cool kids peeked in high school?
I LOVE THIS! And I agree with you on most points! BUT I have one important addition to your theory… I am going to go on a limb here and say that most of these people aren’t really all that cool now. I think there may be a second species in this Latent High School Drama-Rama crew…”The Has Been.”
I know several women from my hometown who were HOTT and popular. NOW, they all still live within a 5 mile radius of our high school and are married to the fatter, balder version of a jock or are now divorced from the same type of guy— AND they LOVE LOVE LOVE the drama still. They love to whisper about who has gained weight and who has a secret addiction. They love to steal each other’s husbands and boyfriends. They love to start catfights in bars. Why is this? First of all- its because there isn’t much else to do in Small Town Indiana. 2nd of all- its because their lives aren’t exciting on their own. They never left the town, tried new things, met new people. So they remain in this latent high school heirarchy to maintain some semblance of superiority. They are no longer the “Mean Girls” they are the “Mean Moms.”
Their behavior isn’t because they are just NOW cool for the first time, but because they are nowhere NEAR as cool as they used to be…
Is it really about “them” and “their” drama? Maybe its just about those who want to propagate just how cool they were in HS, furthermore, showing just how far above the fray they are now in their infinite coolness. Or life is just one big HS. I like chili day in the cafeteria.
God, I would never want to live through anything vaguely high-school-esque ever again. I can see how the high school mentality can be stimulating for people who need/want more spice in their lives, but I still don’t really GET it. I think life has plenty of spice on its own without infusing it high school pettiness!
However, I do agree with thrillhouse 1134. Chili Day was awesome.
I feel like I’m surrounded by high schoolers, at least at work. Most people in entertainment are still getting back at their old classmates by acting like children trying to be prom king. Kind of sad.
I’ve been thinking about high school mostly because of Facebook. I’m amazed at how many of my classmates no longer have hair. Weird.
I blame MTV’s Jersey Shore. But then again, I blame almost all of society’s woes on Jersey Shore, particularly that guy ‘The Situation’. Nothing good can come from that ;-)
I’m a bit younger than yall (junior in collge) but this is my first year with major drama. I was particularly unpopular in school (as were most of the people I live with/who the drama is with) and I know that’s played into it.
I know personally, this whole being-attractive-to-guys thing feels really new and its sometimes hard to not exploit it. That combined with the fact that our friends love a) gossip, b) making fun of people, and c) attention, makes for a constant state of near explosion.
Oh yeah and the fact that we’re all awkward and in a circle of who wants to bang whom doesn’t help. Mostly I’ll be glad when the year ends so I don’t have to deal with the pettiness/fear someone will freak at me at any given time. But at the same time I do identify with those people who want to be ‘cool.’ So while this is stupid an immature, it is also frighteningly seductive.
high school creates drama, but we love being in high school. some people might be depressed but it is all depend on us, right?