Comments on: we’re sorta a package deal and they’re paying… http://www.lostplum.com/2009/12/05/were-sorta-a-package-deal-and-theyre-paying/ Sun, 05 Sep 2010 20:19:15 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: nandoism http://www.lostplum.com/2009/12/05/were-sorta-a-package-deal-and-theyre-paying/#comment-1065 nandoism Mon, 07 Dec 2009 02:50:41 +0000 http://www.lostplum.com/?p=837#comment-1065 rock on sister! no judgments and no silly talk about how often you're talking to your parents! we gotta walk our own paths--even if that means stopping over for some fresh veggies and cheese at the parents house! rock on sister! no judgments and no silly talk about how often you’re talking to your parents! we gotta walk our own paths–even if that means stopping over for some fresh veggies and cheese at the parents house!

]]> By: jmw http://www.lostplum.com/2009/12/05/were-sorta-a-package-deal-and-theyre-paying/#comment-1058 jmw Sun, 06 Dec 2009 02:57:47 +0000 http://www.lostplum.com/?p=837#comment-1058 I don't think it has anything to do with being jealous of a person's close relationship to parents: emotionally or financially. That's all well and good. If they have the time and resources to shower them upon their progeny, then more power to them. However, if the off-spring need it because s/he is incapable of being independent (emotionally or financially) after the age of 20, then the parents have undermined his/her development. If I'm considering a relationship with someone I hope she's had a stable family life, are financially stable, and has a good relationship with her parents, but if I think she has dependency issues, then I'm gonna run... I'm not saying I think this would be the case for either plum or 'AT', but I do think it is a real problem for our generation (e.g., http://www.newsweek.com/id/147767 ).

I don’t think it has anything to do with being jealous of a person’s close relationship to parents: emotionally or financially. That’s all well and good. If they have the time and resources to shower them upon their progeny, then more power to them. However, if the off-spring need it because s/he is incapable of being independent (emotionally or financially) after the age of 20, then the parents have undermined his/her development. If I’m considering a relationship with someone I hope she’s had a stable family life, are financially stable, and has a good relationship with her parents, but if I think she has dependency issues, then I’m gonna run… I’m not saying I think this would be the case for either plum or ‘AT’, but I do think it is a real problem for our generation (e.g., http://www.newsweek.com/id/147767 ).

]]> By: lostplum http://www.lostplum.com/2009/12/05/were-sorta-a-package-deal-and-theyre-paying/#comment-1057 lostplum Sat, 05 Dec 2009 19:13:11 +0000 http://www.lostplum.com/?p=837#comment-1057 carla-- not your fault at all, you're very lucky to have your parents and I'm sure they feel the same:) . Todd -- yes friends are a whole other story all together. As for the working through school thing I don sometimes blame my parents for the fact that I can not get a second job in retail or food services because I have ZERO experience because I never had to work....oh well. . KyrstalBB--thanks for you first comment. and yes I am very lucky, but we all are lucky in our own ways. . drunkenhopfrog -- my fav. frog it is those 'just because' things that we all do that make the world better. See peterfranks comment after yours ;) . Peterfrank -- I didn't know you knew my mother;) thanks hon. carla– not your fault at all, you’re very lucky to have your parents and I’m sure they feel the same:)
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Todd — yes friends are a whole other story all together. As for the working through school thing I don sometimes blame my parents for the fact that I can not get a second job in retail or food services because I have ZERO experience because I never had to work….oh well.
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KyrstalBB–thanks for you first comment. and yes I am very lucky, but we all are lucky in our own ways.
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drunkenhopfrog — my fav. frog it is those ‘just because’ things that we all do that make the world better. See peterfranks comment after yours ;)
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Peterfrank — I didn’t know you knew my mother;) thanks hon.

]]> By: peterfrank http://www.lostplum.com/2009/12/05/were-sorta-a-package-deal-and-theyre-paying/#comment-1056 peterfrank Sat, 05 Dec 2009 19:06:38 +0000 http://www.lostplum.com/?p=837#comment-1056 the only thing your mom might like more is if she was coming to wash little baby clothes! wonderful post AGAIN. the only thing your mom might like more is if she was coming to wash little baby clothes! wonderful post AGAIN.

]]> By: drunkenhopfrog http://www.lostplum.com/2009/12/05/were-sorta-a-package-deal-and-theyre-paying/#comment-1055 drunkenhopfrog Sat, 05 Dec 2009 19:04:13 +0000 http://www.lostplum.com/?p=837#comment-1055 People actually have a problem with that? Many supportive family LIVES to help out "in little ways." I've not needed money of any kind for years. For most of my adult life i have made more than my mom and dad combined. My mom STILL gives me $100 every time I visit "just because." Parents love that stuff. Controlling freaking sig others need to chill the fuck out. It's none of their business nor their place to judge. People actually have a problem with that? Many supportive family LIVES to help out “in little ways.” I’ve not needed money of any kind for years. For most of my adult life i have made more than my mom and dad combined. My mom STILL gives me $100 every time I visit “just because.”

Parents love that stuff. Controlling freaking sig others need to chill the fuck out. It’s none of their business nor their place to judge.

]]> By: KyrstalBB http://www.lostplum.com/2009/12/05/were-sorta-a-package-deal-and-theyre-paying/#comment-1054 KyrstalBB Sat, 05 Dec 2009 18:59:33 +0000 http://www.lostplum.com/?p=837#comment-1054 i think it is wonderful that you have such a greta relationship with your parents. It is about that not the money when people bring it up. Yes the money is a big part because we all think about $$ but it is more about the fact that someone hates that you and your parents are so close. We all aren't so lucky. i think it is wonderful that you have such a greta relationship with your parents. It is about that not the money when people bring it up. Yes the money is a big part because we all think about $$ but it is more about the fact that someone hates that you and your parents are so close. We all aren’t so lucky.

]]> By: Todd http://www.lostplum.com/2009/12/05/were-sorta-a-package-deal-and-theyre-paying/#comment-1053 Todd Sat, 05 Dec 2009 18:57:47 +0000 http://www.lostplum.com/?p=837#comment-1053 great post again. i think it happens in relationships because those should end up becoming attached in things like money you end up sharing money. but what is worse that you didn't mention is when friends bring money up. My grlfriend lost her job in the summer and I had to ask my parents to help with our rent a few months. They happily helped and then some. We were out with friend and one casually mooked the situation, how he had to leave because he still can't ask mom and dad for money. that is what always killed me, not the romantic partners bt the judging friends. the ones who had to work all through school and have two jobs. great post again. i think it happens in relationships because those should end up becoming attached in things like money you end up sharing money. but what is worse that you didn’t mention is when friends bring money up. My grlfriend lost her job in the summer and I had to ask my parents to help with our rent a few months. They happily helped and then some. We were out with friend and one casually mooked the situation, how he had to leave because he still can’t ask mom and dad for money. that is what always killed me, not the romantic partners bt the judging friends. the ones who had to work all through school and have two jobs.

]]> By: carla http://www.lostplum.com/2009/12/05/were-sorta-a-package-deal-and-theyre-paying/#comment-1052 carla Sat, 05 Dec 2009 18:52:04 +0000 http://www.lostplum.com/?p=837#comment-1052 bravo! sing it sista! It's true, my parents work really hard in life and they choice to help me, they love me. Just because someone else doesn't have that doesn't mean they should judge. I'm not rich and my parents aren't but they help me in every way they can. They love me so much and I wish everyone else was as lucky as me, but they aint. That's not my fault so stop bitching about it. bravo! sing it sista! It’s true, my parents work really hard in life and they choice to help me, they love me. Just because someone else doesn’t have that doesn’t mean they should judge. I’m not rich and my parents aren’t but they help me in every way they can. They love me so much and I wish everyone else was as lucky as me, but they aint. That’s not my fault so stop bitching about it.

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