questioning behavior…..
On Saturday I talked about the ‘bad’ date I had with the boy who asked too many inappropriate questions. And now I have realized he just might be inappropriate all together, or at least have boundary issues.
Whenever the conversation moves towards cell phones which frankly somehow always happens. I’m not one to really bring it up but for some reason I find guys bring them up all the time. They are checking out the type of phone you have. Which is cool cause honestly I don’t think I can date a guy with a completely out of date cell phone.
SIDEBAR: I’m a blackberry girl. Have been for a very very long time (and I mean very very long time)
So “Question boy” and I were talking about phones, he has an iphone and I have my blackberry we talked about the pros and cons of each, he talked about apps….blah blah blah.
FACT: I do not find this conversation amusing or appropriate for a ‘date’ but it’s not one of the things I hold against him.
When talking about my phone I bring up one small fact. Which I think is important in knowing about me. It may lead you to believe I am crazy, but in fact it may lead you more o believe how I work.
FACT: I sleep with my phone…or at least am getting better at not.
Yup, I sleep with my phone! I cradle it in my hand softly to my side, or I hold it to my chest, I know I know! I have been working on this really hard, especially since I know have a jobs where its not really necessary to answer emails right away, and the job before that required answering of the phone asap at all hours of the night.
I am slowly breaking away from my blackberry cuddles, and moving my phone to a nightstand or such. Yet some how it seems to land in my hands anyways. (Judge if you want but if there is an emergency I got my phone!)
So, I told ‘question boy” this fact about me, a fact he kept repeating and asking about. I explained one thing, that I have emails shut off on it, so I no longer wake up to emails (I get lots of spam in the early mornings) so basically it’s only the alarms, text messages and phone calls that I get on it. (from 2am-700am, but still!) Like I explained to him it is rare you get ‘spam’ texts or phone calls.
Another thing we talked about was the fact that I was about to make a business trip. I am indeed right now writing this blog from Utah. In fact, he asked me a lot about this trip. I explained many times that my big business meeting (the reason) I was coming was on Monday (TODAY) and that I was going in a few days early to see a good friend, AND THEN…
This morning at 5:21am (Utah time) I feel a text message vibrate with it’s sound. I have a text., and it’s from, you guessed it “question boy”
“ YAWNNN!! I’m up at airport waiting for my plane. Have a great turkey weekend!!!!!!!!! “
5 minutes later another buzz: “Oh right you are a silly canuak and don’t like our turkey. HA!!!!!!!”
about 10 minutes later: “ Hate the airport on Monday mornings!! Shouldn’t you be up and getting ready for your important meetings? Get up!!!!!”
about 5 minutes later: “Are you up yet? You said this meeting was important. Good luck have fun!!!!!”
To which warranted a response:
“It is like fucking 5:30am here! Please stop texting me, and contacting me in general. Thank you. Also, for future reference you should also stop using so many explanation marks!”
SIDEBAR: What is a ‘canuak ‘ ?
Thank you. I love seeing d-baggery punished – seems to happen so infrequent.
Nooo he didn’t ! After a Q&A on your phone, phone cuddling habits AND non-spam texts .. He TEXT you at that unearthly hour of the morning ?? What a jack-ass !
There is no word as ‘canuak’ .. I think he meant ‘canuk’ which is apparently a slang term for Canadians … erm are you Canadian ??
The only thing I can think of which is less appropriate than 5 am text messages (or even 7am for that matter), is using more than 3 exclamation marks.
Those were also not appropriate places for use of more than one (if that.
Also, as the master of all intentionally mis-pronounced Caucasian-culture stereotypes I am deeply offended at the word “canuak” which indeed is not a word.
Appropriate slurs would be: Loony, Hockey-American, or person from Canadia.
I mean maybe one text….but the again and again? “Are you up yet?” Jesus. That guy.
I think blocking his number is an entirely appropriate response to this situtation. Any one who uses that many exclamation points while texting is clearly disturbed.
Oh…. and:
Main Entry: Ca·nuck
Pronunciation: \kə-ˈnək sometimes -ˈnu̇k\
Function: noun
Etymology: origin unknown
Date: 1835
: a Canadian and especially a French Canadian
via Webster’s Dictionary
For all things unknown.
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=canuck
I tend to cradle my phone sometimes, if I’m waiting for a text or a phone call, no matter the time. I’d rather by rudely awoken than miss it.
But if you’re not waiting for a call, leave it, change your settings!
p.s. He is far too much effort, get rid.
That is hilarious. I cant believe you sleep with your phone. But some people like stuffed bears you like your phone. No harm in that.
And I am in complete agreement with talking about phone on the first date. Hell; you shouldn’t resort to talking about your phones till after the 3rd or 4th date (lol). It’s all about getting to know the person; not their phone.
drunkenhopfrog — glad I could help!
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Dazediva — Oh YESS he did! and yes, I would be canadian ;)
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Nick — This person from Canadia also agrees 7am is even still not appropriate!!!!!! (can I use those there?) Oh and thanks for your first comment :)
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Bubbles von BonBon — Even Jesus wouldn’t ask me that!
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Starangel — Agreed!
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DaveTheBrit — He is far TOO many things!
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J.D.McCoy — Thanks for your first comment. And yes, I agree but for some reason it always comes up, maybe I’m just boring to talk to. ;)
I fucking hate people who use exclamation marks too freely. They should all converge on an island and use it all day to each other and see how they like it.