Comments on: I ain’t drinking the KoolAid, or “non KoolAid”, whatever you call it…

By: lostplum

lostplum — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 18:36:34 +0000

nandoism — who you calling a diva, diva!? (you know we see pretty much eye to eye on this one!)
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Xavierism — I’m sorry it went down on you:( so odd! But thanks for sticking with it, so much effort :) You’re right, at the end of the day you need to know yourself and what you want before you start bring other people into that. (and I do hope you come back for more)
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Rufus Shepherd — well i like geezers so we will always have that.
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MaruskaMorena — thanks hon. and if you ever wrap your head around it let me know, maybe you’ll help me see the light, but the again i highly doubt that!
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sayer — what? me not make sense? that is so unusual ;)
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KB — Yes t-shirts are needed asap!
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By: KB_in_NYC

KB_in_NYC — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 01:21:41 +0000

Can I get an ‘I like cock’ T-shirt for my next non-date date?

Fab post as always darling!

By: Sayer

Sayer — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 20:11:32 +0000

I don’t even know what was said. I got lost somewhere in the middle with all the date not date date non-date date…

By: MaruskaMorena

MaruskaMorena — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 17:09:33 +0000

Absolutely 100% agree with you. A non-date-date makes no sense at all to me. I keep trying to wrap my mind around it, but I keep failing. Great Post.

By: Rufus Shepherd

Rufus Shepherd — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 16:56:55 +0000

Date/non-date is the degree of commitment implied. Like a text message is to a phone call. You text (DM) when you don’t want to commit to a conversation; you non-date when you don’t want to commit to an interpersonal interaction. Not that it may not happen, like a series of DMs/texts can turn into a convo, but the commitment to have one wasn’t there initially. One party can always back out guilt-free.

Yeah, I don’t like it either, but then I’m a geezer, so there’s a lot I don’t like :-)

By: Xavierism

Xavierism — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 16:11:23 +0000

I left a comment earlier but when I tried to submit it, your site was down. Ack! I’ve read a few blogs about the ‘non date date’ topic. Is this a NY’er thing? I had to laugh because it really doesn’t make much sense. My dating days are long gone since I’ve been in a 10 year relationship. Whew…thank God for that!

I have had a few girlfriends that did go out on date(s) and turned into non date date(s). A few were actually happy that they made friends with those that quite didn’t have that special somethin’ somethin’. It happens. I believe dating has changed much. People are still out trying to connect and find Love and all that comes along with that. Sad that so many people have no clue what they want in their own Life…those are the last folks that should be out on the dating scene.

Love your blog. I’ll have to come back for more.

*Cheers*

By: nandoism

nandoism — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 15:08:27 +0000

You’re such a dating DIVA and I love it! You said it perfectly, it’s an escape goat to soften the blow if one party gets rejected. You can fall back on, “oh, it was a non-date date anyway so it doesn’t matter.” If that’s what it takes to get you through the cold lonely nights…GO FOR IT, but honey, in reality, it was just a bad date.