out there…
I sent my first ever email via online dating the other day. I don’t know why really. I don’t have time to eat and sleep so why am I thinking I have time to go on a date.
I have never made first contact with a guy online before. Unless you count doing those okcupid quick matches, but I’m so addicted to hitting one-star I can’t help myself! But actually get up the nerve to send an email; I’ve never done it. I’d like to think that it’s cause I’m shy or something like that but the fact of the matter is at the end of the day I’m a snob.
I want a guy to come to me, to impress me, to woo me. I’m to good to make that effort. Guys should be coming to me, not the other way around. And then I realized that is such a bitchy thing to think (regardless of how true it is).
So I saw a profile, it caught my eye, not once but maybe 5 times. So I sent a message. I doubt I’ll get a message back but such is life.
So to all the guys who get up the nerve to send girls email. I have alittle more respect for you. Unless your sending generic “we got so much in common” emails then you all can go screw yourselves cause that’s really when this “snob” is WAY to good for you!
Good for you! It takes a lot to seek out someone online and actually contact them. Who knows, maybe you’ll get lucky! Don’t get discouraged if you don’t get a reply, as I’m sure you can think about if you were on the other side of the email. Online, it’s very easy to ignore someone, which makes it hard for those who are seriously looking for something real.
It’s good to make some time to meet people though. It’s important. Regardless of how busy you are, you have to set aside some time to help yourself.
David
Scribnia.com
It is so much easier for girls! I have to send 5 messages to get 1 reply. You’ll like my latest post by the way – rules for girls when online dating. You know the link.
Having watched female friends use dating sites and compared it to my own experiences, I really must agree it’s much easier for girls. I’d have to spam messages to get any sort of yield (perhaps one response) while they’d be inundated with a deluge no sooner than they’d logged in.
If the profile caught your eye 5 times, it’d be a bummer not to write. I only had a profile up for awhile, but in those days I’d email one guy for every 10 or 11 who emailed me. Most of the guys here had dead animals in their pictures, though.
For me the -point- of internet dating was so I’d get up the courage to ask guys out. Waiting for one to ‘pick’ me (irl and not) resulted in dating douches. I first messaged my current boyfriend and he did do a lot of wooing after. I think it’s how you approach it. He hadn’t used the site for a while so never would have seen me but by sending a nice, interesting guy a message I got results.
And I messaged a lot of guys where it went no where. I think it’s about how much you want it and are willing to work for it. In my opinion being able to message someone should not be the hardest part of a relationship.
david — thanks you. i guess time should be set aside, but it is never on my priority list….I guess I just don’t care that much, lol.
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Jimmy — well maybe one day all that will change.
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sayer — I hope you aren’t saying you actually spam email girls….
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erin — what’s wrong with dead animals ;)
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Jennifer-from-NY — Oh you are right, that should be nothing near hard ;)