I’ll take more than a week…
It’s National Singles Week. Take that to mean what you will. However, I thought I needed to write a post on being single or something like that, cause you know I never write on important issues.
I bounced around ideas: What being single meant to me, how I feel about all my friends getting married, what I do and don’t like about being single, the past proposals, and then I was reminded of a previous post I did about relationship references.
As many of you know at the end of many of my posts I list reasons why I may be single. (Most of these are jokes, or are they) So, I decided to take the reference list full circle.
Now please remember that the boys I asked to give me relationship references are from all different types of ‘involvement’, from the very serious ‘boyfriend’ relationship, to the really good friends who I drunkenly made-out with once.
I re-contacted my 10 references. I asked them if they had to describe why I was single in 140 characters what would their answer be. So, here is their brilliant and insightful insight into why I am celebrating another National Singles Week. (insert drum-roll)
: I know she has not or will not ever settle for someone she isn’t into.
: I said it before: She talks ALOT but listens more so be careful!!
: If she still had the body she used to she wouldn’t be. She got fat.
: I have no answer for this except there must be something wrong besides all the obvious things.
: Because I don’t even know anyone deserving enough for the wonderfulness that she is, and she knows this as well.
: She’s too funny to keep up with, and guys like to be the funny ones.
: She let’s things roll off her. Guys like girls who cry and scream and get hurt by little things. It takes a lot to hurt her feelings, and make her mad/cry, and she never bitches.
: She’s waiting for the moment she knows someone really loves her.
: She’s scared.
: She’s not interested in fixing and working things out. When it’s done it’s done and she’s gone. She gives up on guys and writes them off easily.
SIDEBAR: I enjoy being able to celebrate National Singles Week!
FACT: The following are matched in the same order as the ‘relationship reference’ list.
(reason #___why I’m single: See above!)
wow, someone said you got fat! That’s down right mean! There are a few of us guys who look at what is in the inside. Well we might look at your pretty face first, but you know what I mean!
It’s because you haven’t meet me yet.
I think some of these answers are actually good points about you! The right one will come along honey don’t you worry about it!
PatrickD–Everyone has their things. I know I have mine. And to be honest, he’s right I used to have such a better body ;)
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MATTY-MATT– You maybe right.
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KK–Oh don’t worry, I’m not worried one bit, in fact, I don’t really ever think about it. (thanks for your first comment)
Wow, your posts must be pushing my buttons because I never comment this much on ANYONE’S blog…
About the “fat” thing…I’ve been thin, in between, and a chunky monkey (my current state of affairs), and my husband (who’s smokin hot and unfortunately aging better than me) is into my regardless. And I still get hit on by men no matter what size I am (albeit moreso when I’m thinner).
What’s my point? Real men like real women, not a media-induced fantasy of what a woman should look like – the same industry heavily influenced by a gale male aesthetic.
What I had found (while single) that was a challenge for me was finding a man who could keep up with me intellectually and could handle my sharp wit. Many of the guys I liked – the ones who were outgoing and funny and what not – eventually didn’t want to work too hard/’compete’ with me (although it was never a competition for me, it was a relationship). I ended up with the strong, silent type, and someone who actually got off on seeing me shine.
I don’t know what your “type” is, Lost Plum, but that is what I wish for you – someone who genuinely celebrates you.
(Btw, whatsa girl gotta do to be added to your blogroll, Huh? HUH? ;-)
Ms. Mix & Bitch — I’m sorry I’m pushing buttons, although alittle button pushing never hurt anyone! I have been hit on and dated when I was tiny to what I am now which is not ideal but far from terrible. It’s all in how someone carries themselves, if you are confident in your body that is what is attractive! I don’t know what my “type” is,but Im sure I’ll know it when I find it…..and I so feel you on the keeping up with outgoing and strong wit, and the competition that can lead too. Oh well! ;) I added you the other day to y blog roll, and I checked it’s still there! (I have two different ones you’re on the first one my dear!) :)
Thanks, Ms. Plum ;-)
I hope the ‘fat’ comment was a joke. What a dickish thing to say!
dickish yes, but you did ask them to be honest. maybe he was saying some guys are like that and that is maybe a reason.
I want a play by play on why you aren’t with each of these guys! Please tell me that is coming with your promise of more “long time ago” posts?