Comments on: Confirmed… http://www.lostplum.com/2009/09/23/confirmed/ Wed, 28 Jul 2010 20:08:34 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: lostplum http://www.lostplum.com/2009/09/23/confirmed/#comment-671 lostplum Sun, 11 Oct 2009 15:47:29 +0000 http://www.lostplum.com/?p=700#comment-671 franny--- you know it. . gany-- you are right it all depends on the "contract" that people set up before and. (our contract was more about the honesty but..) You have a fun 'legal' slant of looking at it. And thanks for your first comment! franny— you know it.
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gany– you are right it all depends on the “contract” that people set up before and. (our contract was more about the honesty but..) You have a fun ‘legal’ slant of looking at it. And thanks for your first comment!

]]> By: Gany http://www.lostplum.com/2009/09/23/confirmed/#comment-668 Gany Sun, 11 Oct 2009 10:48:38 +0000 http://www.lostplum.com/?p=700#comment-668 The lying part and the cheating part are different in my book. Everyone is going to lie at one time, no matter how "honest" the person is. Cheating is different it as it involves a sort of "breach of contract" (that is if both parties had decided to stay monogamous). Whenever you can't sustain the rules and breach them, the contract is null and void and therefore any future relationship is ended. The lying part and the cheating part are different in my book. Everyone is going to lie at one time, no matter how “honest” the person is. Cheating is different it as it involves a sort of “breach of contract” (that is if both parties had decided to stay monogamous). Whenever you can’t sustain the rules and breach them, the contract is null and void and therefore any future relationship is ended.

]]> By: Franny http://www.lostplum.com/2009/09/23/confirmed/#comment-531 Franny Mon, 28 Sep 2009 04:48:09 +0000 http://www.lostplum.com/?p=700#comment-531 wow. people are really upset about this topic. You seem way more level headed then most of your readers! wow. people are really upset about this topic. You seem way more level headed then most of your readers!

]]> By: lostplum http://www.lostplum.com/2009/09/23/confirmed/#comment-514 lostplum Thu, 24 Sep 2009 18:38:30 +0000 http://www.lostplum.com/?p=700#comment-514 holy wow! look at everyone chiming in! Didn't think that would ever happen! Maybe I need to use the term "i was hurt by a guy" more often....lol...I'm fine by all the above by the way. . . @luckychica--- you are very right internal signal's are where it's at. It's true the thing that upsets me most is I for once in my life didn't listen to them. live and learn! . Wilmaryad--Hon, I'm sorry to hear about your heart being torn up. Keep that head up. I like to believe there is more good then bad out there....sometimes it just takes more time to find the good! . jefferson--Lying is human nature don't fret over it. . steph1982-- OH I KNOW what song you're talking about! You are terrible! (thanks for your first comment!) Where you born in 1982? really!? . Gregg--Thanks for your first comment and the kind words. You are correct lying is a two way street! And I personal think girls might lie more to guys then guys to girls....just from what all my gfs say. . Erin--I feel bad I'm making you sick to your stomach. No worries; smile! Thanks for your first comment, and for being the first comment to ever have "FUCK U" in it!! ;) . Ms. M&B-- You are more then right it ALL sucks. I don't really ever walk into a relationship expecting fidelity or anything for that matter. (but that is me) Both of the offenses are crappy yes, but I think I'm just more of a sucker for being lied to. And I agree on the band boy analogy, for more then the reasons above. In fact it's on my list: No more boys in bands, it falls right before no more boys with accents. I've never really had to many heart-wrenching song-and-dances in fact I think I've only had one (maybe two but that is different). When I say this event above upset me it did and it didn't. i didn't cry over it. In fact,I didn't really cry when we broke up, or when I found out every other guy had cheated on me too....well minus the first one, but again that's the first 'love' song and dance. Anywho, thanks for your insight and once again confirming why I need to buy my ticket to concerts not get let in the backdoor ;) . paulie--For your first comment that all you got ;) . jen-- I had to edit your post. Don't use my name, thank you hon. And you are right I sent 'band boy' a text the other day saying I watched the DVD finally and he called me about 10 minutes after. And we laughed about it. He did and still feels bad, and joked about how I can add that to the long list of reasons why I will never marry him...ha ha ha. holy wow! look at everyone chiming in! Didn’t think that would ever happen! Maybe I need to use the term “i was hurt by a guy” more often….lol…I’m fine by all the above by the way.
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@luckychica— you are very right internal signal’s are where it’s at. It’s true the thing that upsets me most is I for once in my life didn’t listen to them. live and learn!
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Wilmaryad–Hon, I’m sorry to hear about your heart being torn up. Keep that head up. I like to believe there is more good then bad out there….sometimes it just takes more time to find the good!
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jefferson–Lying is human nature don’t fret over it.
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steph1982– OH I KNOW what song you’re talking about! You are terrible! (thanks for your first comment!) Where you born in 1982? really!?
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Gregg–Thanks for your first comment and the kind words. You are correct lying is a two way street! And I personal think girls might lie more to guys then guys to girls….just from what all my gfs say.
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Erin–I feel bad I’m making you sick to your stomach. No worries; smile! Thanks for your first comment, and for being the first comment to ever have “FUCK U” in it!! ;)
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Ms. M&B– You are more then right it ALL sucks. I don’t really ever walk into a relationship expecting fidelity or anything for that matter. (but that is me) Both of the offenses are crappy yes, but I think I’m just more of a sucker for being lied to. And I agree on the band boy analogy, for more then the reasons above. In fact it’s on my list: No more boys in bands, it falls right before no more boys with accents. I’ve never really had to many heart-wrenching song-and-dances in fact I think I’ve only had one (maybe two but that is different). When I say this event above upset me it did and it didn’t. i didn’t cry over it. In fact,I didn’t really cry when we broke up, or when I found out every other guy had cheated on me too….well minus the first one, but again that’s the first ‘love’ song and dance. Anywho, thanks for your insight and once again confirming why I need to buy my ticket to concerts not get let in the backdoor ;)
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paulie–For your first comment that all you got ;)
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jen– I had to edit your post. Don’t use my name, thank you hon. And you are right I sent ‘band boy’ a text the other day saying I watched the DVD finally and he called me about 10 minutes after. And we laughed about it. He did and still feels bad, and joked about how I can add that to the long list of reasons why I will never marry him…ha ha ha.

]]> By: jen http://www.lostplum.com/2009/09/23/confirmed/#comment-509 jen Thu, 24 Sep 2009 16:34:53 +0000 http://www.lostplum.com/?p=700#comment-509 well I'm a lady and I'm yes chiming in, but in a different way. So as a long time friend of [lost plums] and knowing the guy in question I just have to say that I know [LP] doesnt mean hurt in the way you are all thinking. I think she's more hurt that yup every guy she's been serious about has cheated on her. Cheating hurts. But if you ever talked with her or heard the whole story you would know that it's not the cheating part that bothers her it's the lying part. she's a terrible lier really she is, and she believes people she cares about 500% of the time. Anyways, she will remain friends with guy above and I'm sure she'll find some funny way to bring it up to him, and they will all laugh. [LP] wow people really do read your blog and now you got them all rattled, watch out ;-) well I’m a lady and I’m yes chiming in, but in a different way. So as a long time friend of [lost plums] and knowing the guy in question I just have to say that I know [LP] doesnt mean hurt in the way you are all thinking. I think she’s more hurt that yup every guy she’s been serious about has cheated on her. Cheating hurts. But if you ever talked with her or heard the whole story you would know that it’s not the cheating part that bothers her it’s the lying part. she’s a terrible lier really she is, and she believes people she cares about 500% of the time. Anyways, she will remain friends with guy above and I’m sure she’ll find some funny way to bring it up to him, and they will all laugh. [LP] wow people really do read your blog and now you got them all rattled, watch out ;-)

]]> By: paulie http://www.lostplum.com/2009/09/23/confirmed/#comment-508 paulie Thu, 24 Sep 2009 16:29:24 +0000 http://www.lostplum.com/?p=700#comment-508 watch out all the ladies are chiming in. watch out all the ladies are chiming in.

]]> By: Ms. Mix & Bitch http://www.lostplum.com/2009/09/23/confirmed/#comment-504 Ms. Mix & Bitch Thu, 24 Sep 2009 15:08:13 +0000 http://www.lostplum.com/?p=700#comment-504 Ladies and gentleman, here's a wake up call...it's the lying AND the cheating that hurt. Why are you all trying to downplay the act of betrayal itself? I don't get that. The actual act of cheating - the fucking - demonstrates your former man's arrogance and inherent disrespect/disenchantment for you on some level. Lying afterwards is him just not wanting to deal with the consequences after the fact. In other words, it ALL sucks. Don't get me wrong. I am sorry for any person who has been blantantly cheated on. You're a cool girl, Lost Plum. From the cheap seats here though, expecting fidelity from a boy band member sounds about as likely as not getting a crouchful of crabs from a Tijuana sex worker. If you're going to fall for the players, expect to get played. Might be time to look at the kind of guys you like because you're way too amazing of a woman to keep up this heart-wrenching song-and-dance. Ms. M&B Ladies and gentleman, here’s a wake up call…it’s the lying AND the cheating that hurt. Why are you all trying to downplay the act of betrayal itself? I don’t get that. The actual act of cheating – the fucking – demonstrates your former man’s arrogance and inherent disrespect/disenchantment for you on some level. Lying afterwards is him just not wanting to deal with the consequences after the fact.

In other words, it ALL sucks.

Don’t get me wrong. I am sorry for any person who has been blantantly cheated on. You’re a cool girl, Lost Plum. From the cheap seats here though, expecting fidelity from a boy band member sounds about as likely as not getting a crouchful of crabs from a Tijuana sex worker. If you’re going to fall for the players, expect to get played.

Might be time to look at the kind of guys you like because you’re way too amazing of a woman to keep up this heart-wrenching song-and-dance.

Ms. M&B

]]> By: Erin http://www.lostplum.com/2009/09/23/confirmed/#comment-502 Erin Wed, 23 Sep 2009 21:17:33 +0000 http://www.lostplum.com/?p=700#comment-502 God, I feel sick to my stomach reading this. The lying doesn't upset me as much as the absolutely undeniable FUCK YOU that cheating represents. Guys say, "It's not you, it's not you," but they know good and well it means FUCK YOU. They know it is a direct offense, an insult, a slap in the face, a kick in the teeth. Otherwise they wouldn't feel so bad about getting caught. Congrats if you want to be restrained about it, but I would not be this guy's friend anymore. God, I feel sick to my stomach reading this. The lying doesn’t upset me as much as the absolutely undeniable FUCK YOU that cheating represents. Guys say, “It’s not you, it’s not you,” but they know good and well it means FUCK YOU. They know it is a direct offense, an insult, a slap in the face, a kick in the teeth. Otherwise they wouldn’t feel so bad about getting caught.

Congrats if you want to be restrained about it, but I would not be this guy’s friend anymore.

]]> By: gregg http://www.lostplum.com/2009/09/23/confirmed/#comment-501 gregg Wed, 23 Sep 2009 20:08:50 +0000 http://www.lostplum.com/?p=700#comment-501 I have to agree with jefferson: I feel like a douche now! But Lying is a two way street. And going to agree with @luckychica you have more then one thing going for you! and that's no LIE! (I love your blog!) I have to agree with jefferson: I feel like a douche now! But Lying is a two way street. And going to agree with @luckychica you have more then one thing going for you! and that’s no LIE! (I love your blog!)

]]> By: steph1982 http://www.lostplum.com/2009/09/23/confirmed/#comment-500 steph1982 Wed, 23 Sep 2009 20:06:49 +0000 http://www.lostplum.com/?p=700#comment-500 I really want to reference a certain song right now about him being a dick to you.....I know you know what I mean! I hate him now and need to watch me that silly dvd. I really want to reference a certain song right now about him being a dick to you…..I know you know what I mean! I hate him now and need to watch me that silly dvd.

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