The Lost Plum…

I read a lot of online articles, especially in the dating/love/advise type spectrum. I find funny articles, those I shake my head at, some I shake a fist at, some I do a little cheer in my chair for, and a bunch of other that are just plain ridicules (much like my writing), and the odd few that make me laugh out loud.

Now, people post lists because they come off as funny, and everyone loves a fun list! I do them all the time! I’m a lot funnier when writing in bullet points! (let’s be honest here)

Most of the lists out there fall under the ‘advise’ whelm. (how to give a good bj, what to wear on a date, how to pick up a cougar…you name it they have a list) Now, I will sometimes link to other articles and give my humble opinion or my rant on the subject, and that’s cool. Everyone does it and everyone is game for it. I have yet to have a moment where I flat out disagree so much with another writing/blog that I in turn have to rant about it, until now.  I spent the last little while deciding if I wanted to write this, and well it has bugged me too much to not.

Now, I’m not going to link where said ‘article’ was posted. (but it’s an online relationship type online mag, and it’s by a writer/blogger I’ve enjoyed articles from before, but since I have never linked to her I will not do so in this case)

I assume she was trying to be funny, and hell I make light of situations, which should not be made light of all the time, but this post rubbed me wrong, and in the end I did not find it funny. We all know I find pretty much anything funny, but this was not even funny in a stupid ridicules list kind of way. (and again I find funny in pretty much anything)

SIDEBAR: I’m being a bitch right now. Guys take note ALL girls have a bitch side!

The article was on “ways to say no to sex” (if you don’t want to have it). Now, the article should have stuck to its introduction, which was a list of things you probably should NOT say…some were funny, and some tried way to hard, but all in all it got me to the second page. And then the list of things you should say to ‘get out of having sex’….

After about 10 or 15 or whatever points, (it was way to many that’s all I’m going to say) it says you can always try the old ‘honesty’ approach and just say “no”.

Well I think the author is looking at this all-wrong. It’s not about being honest. It’s about us being respectful of ourselves and respectful of other!

If you don’t want to have sex, don’t. No excuse needed.

It is called: NO!

If you don’t want to hold someone’s hand, if you don’t want to try anal, if you aren’t up for giving that blowjob, or even receiving that blowjob (that would be a first) then don’t.

Say goodnight, goodbye, fuck off, or nothing and walk out of the room speechless; say no.

If you aren’t up for sex, you are NOT up for sex. The fact that we live in a place where people make lists of how to “get out of it” makes me sad for all of us. Have some respect for yourself, and respect for others!  Once we can all start to not only respect people for who they are, but who they are sexual (always or just at one given moment) we can all live a little better.

Sing It With Me: R-E-S-P-E-C-T !!

FACT: Just cause a girl doesn’t want to have sex with you at this moment doesn’t mean she isn’t going to BLOW YOUR MIND tomorrow!