Swing that bat my way….
Today was the final night of Dating Boot Camp, and the ‘theme’ of the evening was the do’s and don’ts of first dates and everything after that (yes even sex)
I had agreed before hand that one of us had to ask a question. (And with no surprise it was me) We joked and conversed about questions to ask the man panel, even posed it to our Twitter friends and we spent the day twittering about the ridiculous that one could ask.
As we found ourselves at Man Panel time, and as question in regards to losing erections, first kisses, and such bounced around I raised my hand (with authority I might add)
I take the mic: “You’ve waited your 90days, or 9days, or even 9hours and your are with a woman who is by far more experienced then you, she knows what she wants and defiantly what she is doing. Your first thought is (beat) ‘Awesome!’ But your second and long term thought about a sexually confident woman is what?”
‘Awesome’ was echoed quite a few times with rapid headshakes and then: One of our lovely men said he might honestly be alittle scared. Two others agreed that basically as long as a “safety word” didn’t have to be established it was cool.
And then this GEM: ”I would wonder how she got so good” …”what she did to graduate from miner leagues to the majors”
*Hugh*What*Seriously*
Now first off this is a room full of woman over 30 who should be good at sex and most importantly Confident. Confident in themselves and in their sexual ability, no matter what it might be. (if not they need to work on themselves before they take on trying to learn about men)
Second off, this is one of those rules that don’t really go both ways between the sexes. (unlike the “numbers” conversation)
Women do NOT sit thinking how a guy got so good at sex: Defiantly not in the moment, and defiantly not after! They might praise how good it was, but no girlfriend over mannis/peddies (or beers) is going to question how he got so good. She’s probably just jealous.
And who is to say a girl just can’t naturally be good at something? Just because she is “good” a guy has to assume she has had practice, and that some how has to automatically mean it was with multiple people…..
REALLY GUYS! (just like life some people are naturally good at things)
FACT: I don’t care what you had to do(or who you had to do) to graduate to the majors, I’m just happy your swinging your bat my way….
